Fortunately for you, I have dated some real frogs. I sure know what heartbreak feels like, and if I had known what to look out for, I could have avoided some of that. A couple of the men listed below are based off of long term relationships I wound up in and some very short-lived dating experiences.
The more I date, the easier it becomes to spot these bad boys. Hopefully my experiences can help you as you walk on the path to finding your prince charming.
1. The Charmer
He's gorgeous, has a great career, and speaks with confidence. He crosses off all of the items on your prince charming list, and your family will be ecstatic when they realize that he's the man their little girl has scored.
He'll take you out for an amazing dinner and buy you delicious wine. You'll enjoy his knowledge of a good craft cocktail, and he'll enjoy the pleasure of introducing you to all of his favorite beverages. After a night of drink exploration, and great conversation, he'll ask you to join him at his house for a night cap. When you decline (even though you are buzzing from the drinks) he'll happily walk you to your door and give you a kiss that makes your body melt.
He'll take you out a another time or two. However, once he realizes that you're trying to get to know him before taking your clothes off, he'll drop you like a hot potato and move on to the next victim, for he knows that there are plenty of other women willing to hop into bed on the first or second date. You'll realize why the dates quickly moved from going out to having dinner and a movie at his place and will thank God that you didn't give it up.
2. The Broken Man
His father is an alcoholic who left him, his mother has been married 4 times, his older brother is a coke addict, and his sister is a boozer with three kids with three different guys. He found his ex girlfriend in his bed with another man because he "was going out for drinks too much". He also despises his job.
And this was all discovered within the first 30 minutes of your date! The poor man just wants something good in his life, and maybe you can be that girl right?.. Hold on! Are you ready for a world full of drama and negativity? We all have issues within our families and other areas of our lives, but did he really need to unload all of that on you without even asking what you do for work or how your day was? Um.. I say run!
3. The Man Who Hates Women (Except for You, of Course)
He's very attractive, and the way he fearlessly got your number impressed you. He's got game and is insistent on taking you out to a nice dinner.
He's super easy to get along with and then... he starts talking about women. The first thing he says is subtle, and you could probably just let it slide, "my ex was crazy." Okay, we all date a crazy person at least once in our lives. You continue on with your fajitas and good conversation and then he mentions that his sister is a #*@%!. Okay.. wow, that's not a nice thing to say about your sister, you think to yourself. You brush it off, thinking she must be a pretty tough person to be around; sometimes siblings can be awful.
Then, you find yourself becoming appalled when he starts complaining about all of the women he works with are either crazy or dumb. Suddenly, you realize that he doesn't think highly of women at all. But he's sweet to you, so he'll treat you well despite all of that, right? Wrong! Don't you remember that you are seeing a man's best representation of himself within the first few weeks of dating? If he's already firing off on the women in his life now, imagine how things will be when his true colors show. I think you've seen enough at this point...
4. The Liar
He is very curious about you, which you love and checks everything off your list of "The Ideal Man". Unfortunately, it can take much longer to discover that you have one of these guys; especially if he's good at what he does. This guy will be everything you want, but you will slowly start noticing that some of the things he's told you don't add up.
It'll get worse when you start catching him in bigger lies. When you catch him, he'll easily come up with another lie as a defense. Every once an a while he may admit that he was lying, but he'll always have good reason. You may think that he is "working on it," as he says, but his lies with only get worse, and you're trust for him will fade faster and faster until you realize that you don't even know him anymore.
5. The Obsessed/Possessive
He will shower you with love, affection, compliments, and give you the world. He moves very fast, and you will be his girlfriend before you have time to even think about the idea of being in a committed relation ship with him. Soon, he'll start getting annoyed when you want to spend any second away from him, and he'll start making you feel guilty about it.
You'll wind up finding yourself fading away from all of your friends and family, and soon he will be your world. He is manipulative and making you all his is an art for him; he thoroughly enjoys it, and you will soon forget who you are. This relationship can end in all sorts of bad situations, and you may need help getting yourself out of it. Be very careful of this guy.
As I close this article, I would like to thank these men for making me stronger and giving me something to write about ;) Never have regrets!
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I went on one date with guy number 3 & and left the date early. Serious. I won't put up with that guy
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