7 Signs You're in the Wrong Relationship

I thought I would marry him. We were in college, had our whole lives ahead of us, and were madly in love. We spent holidays with each others' families, raised a puppy together, worked on managing our money together, and knew everything about one another.


Then one day, we became strangers. Emotionally, we started heading in different directions and found  that we no longer had much in common. Instead of realizing that we were not right for each other, we tried to ignore the harsh truth. What we had was comfortable, and our families had expected us to get married.

Instead of doing what we knew was necessary, I tried to change who he was, and he constantly lied to me, pretending to be someone that he was not. It felt horrible to be lied to by the person I loved, and he felt awful not feeling like he could be his true self. I was ready to grow up and settle into the husband/wife/house/children life, and he wasn't ready to give up the party life that I didn't want anything to do with any longer.

Instead of breaking apart and searching for someone who wanted to grow with me emotionally, I chose to try the impossible and change him. Instead of him going out to find someone who was okay with the lifestyle he chose to live, he found it easier to pretend to be the person that I was looking for.

What we had going on felt worse and worse as time passed. Something was terribly wrong, and it was making both of us bitter, tired, and unhappy. It wasn't easy, but we finally came to our senses, faced the fear of the unknown, and broke up. As tough as it was, it was the best decision we could have made...

Here are some signs that you may be in the wrong relationship:

1. Absence of trust

You find yourself questioning everything he says, even the little things. You don't even know who she really is anymore. You feel anxious and question what he is doing when he's away.


2. You Can't Picture a Future Together Anymore

Instead of thinking about the next road trip the two of you should pack up for, you're wondering who would take the TV if you just so happened to ever split up. Instead of thinking about what you will say in your vows, you're trying to remember the last good conversation you had with him. You don't want to go home to see her; home has become a place where you feel empty and lost.

 3. You Wonder What it Would be Like to Date "That" Person

You may have looked at others before and found them attractive, but you had someone that you loved, and had no desire to date anyone else. Now when you're out with your SO, you're finding yourself longing to talk to that cute guy and his friends. That pretty girl across the room looks so sweet and fun to be around; you bet she would be the type of girl that you could introduce to your family with pride. Oh! Right, snap back to your conversation with your SO. Stay focused. Pay attention.

4. No Emotional Growth

You want to be your best self, experience more, and challenge yourself. Instead, you feel like your SO is holding you back, and making you feel stuck. It feels like the real you is trapped inside, screaming and crying to get out. You envy others who are making accomplishments and improvements in their lives. Your SO wants nothing to do with any of that and refuses to grow with you.

 5. Your Friends and Family Disapprove

You should never be with someone that your friends and family don't like. They may need some time to get to know your SO and may wind up loving that person after all; however, if they've had plenty of time to make their best judgement, and still don't approve, I would consider thinking about that for a moment. Those people know you. They know what is good for you and should be excited for the future of the two of you.

6. Abuse
  
Get. Out. Now. Right now. You deserve better.  Nobody, and I mean NOBODY deserves to be abused, physically or emotionally. You have become a product of another individual's insecurities, and that is not okay. And don't allow your fears get the best of you. There is a way to get out, and you are strong enough to find that way!

7. You Question Your Relationship Constantly

It just doesn't feel right, and you're always wondering if you should break if off. You have a gut feeling that you aren't supposed to be with her. You keep asking yourself if he is really right for you, and it happens more regularly as time passes.

I think deep down, we know when it's not right, but it's scary to take that dive into the unknown. When you've been with someone for a long time, you change the way you live. Your hobbies change, ideas on life, you have someone to tell everything to, to hold at night. Thinking about everything that you would have to do differently sounds terrifying, and you don't know if you're capable of handling so many changes all at once.

Well, you won't know until you do it right? Ask yourself, does you relationship make you feel good? No? What if you actually are capable of finding happiness and joy? What if you can learn how as you go? I know you can. I know because I did it. You are beautiful inside and out and deserve someone who sees that.


Let's hear it! Have you ever gotten yourself out of a relationship you knew wasn't right? How did you feel when you finally broke things off?

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